DEAR ABBY: Our daughter-in-law is morally corrupt, egotistical and narcissistic. For nearly a 12 months she has been blatant about having an affair and has abused and disrespected our son and two of her three daughters. She has taken innumerable holidays over time with out our son. When they’re collectively at residence, she always places him down and psychologically abuses him, often in entrance of his youthful daughters.
She tries to satisfy her boyfriend each time doable. Often, she sends him a textual content after which goes “shopping.” If my son is round to look at the youngsters, she’ll simply depart. If she’s residence, she has lengthy telephone conversations with the boyfriend, although the youngsters are current.
The oldest daughter is aware of what’s occurring, as she has informed her dad as a lot. The humorous factor is, his spouse thinks nobody is aware of what’s occurring when everyone knows what’s occurring. All we are able to do is encourage our son to get a lawyer. That’s most likely simply what she desires, so she will make him the unhealthy man. Thanks for any suggestion you may need. — MYSTIFIED IN MINNESOTA
DEAR MYSTIFIED: I perceive why, as a caring guardian, you’re upset in regards to the remedy your son has been receiving. However till he’s prepared to confess to himself that his marriage is irretrievably broken, nothing will change.
Help him emotionally and inform him to speak to an legal professional about what his choices and tasks can be if he selected to divorce his spouse. What’s occurring now just isn’t good for his kids, which is why he may wish to ask for custody. He doesn’t need to file papers, however it could educate him about what to do (and count on) subsequent. The remainder is as much as him.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I’ve traveled many occasions with two different {couples} who’re pricey buddies. My husband lately handed away, however I plan to proceed touring with them. We’ve historically break up bills comparable to condominium and automobile leases equally, with every couple paying one third.
We now have our first journey deliberate since my husband’s passing. We’re planning to hire a three-bedroom condominium and a automobile giant sufficient to accommodate all of us and our baggage. They assumed I’d pay one-third of the condominium expense, since I’ll have my very own bed room. I’m superb with that.
My query is concerning the rental automobile. We haven’t mentioned how we’ll break up the price, however I believe it might be truthful to separate the automobile 5 methods, since there are solely 5 of us now. I don’t wish to trigger friction between us, and I’d recognize your ideas on how the automobile rental price needs to be break up and the way I ought to method discussing this with them. — UNCERTAIN TRAVELER
DEAR UNCERTAIN: As a result of your scenario has modified, I don’t suppose it might be inappropriate to lift the topic of splitting the price of the automobile rental 5 methods. These are longtime buddies, and your level is legitimate. Point out it the subsequent time the journey is mentioned.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
